Sexual thoughts don't have to be lustful thoughts. We're created to desire sex, and sex is good. Just as we can look forward to a good meal, we can look forward to sex!
This isn't meant to sound authoritative - I'm still very young, and don't have all the answers - these are just some thoughts. But I think a number of Christian singles (myself included!) would do well to remember that we're not meant to live forlornly waiting for any time or event, but to make the most of each day we're given; and also to remember that God isn't anti-sex, and He knew what He was doing when He made us!
Society is ridiculously over-obsessed with sex. But we Christians don't have to buy into it. Funny as it may seem, I think something can be learnt from treating sex as analogous to eating.
The Bible does teach about hunger for food. It teaches us not to be greedy, to commit it to God before eating and be thankful every time, but to keep our appetite under control, watch out for greed, and look to the fellowship and enjoyment of the person(s) we're sharing the meal with. All of this carries over to the sex analogy. Although I'm not so sure about ensuring that the food is shared equally among the whole community!! :-)
Sex is often associated with many perversions or sins - for example, sadomasochism, prostitution, lust (by which I mean mentally or physically treating a person as a sexual object, not a person), and arguably homosexuality. These are still sins, and I believe Jesus teaches us that to think of or desire such acts is itself a sin (Matt 5:28; also 5:21-22, 34).
But if thoughts of good, godly, spiritual intimacy, sharing, sexual union - respecting and pleasuring the other person - can be separated from lustful desires, then I don't think that's sinful at all, but rather proper celebration and enjoyment of one of God's many wonderful gifts!
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